Bye Bye Wedding Rule Book – Hello Authentic Weddings Experiences


Weddings have come a long way. We were always inclined to encourage couples to do it their way and to forget rules and formalities. No two weddings should be the same. We are glad to say that no 2 weddings are ever the same at Ballinacurra and we still get excited every time, to see how each couple will interpret their wedding vision here with us.

Granted, there are many reasons why Ballinacurra attracts couples that are looking for something different because there are just so many ways to celebrate a wedding here and a myriad of cool locations around the property to say I Do.

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But in the larger scheme of things, it seems that weddings have become a lot less rigid and standard. Couples are choosing a less formal approach to weddings — less pomp and ceremony, and more celebration.

Couples are really getting into making their day personalised and different to reflect the couple and their tastes. There is no longer a rulebook that has to be followed. People can get married in Converse, with their dogs, in a trouser suit by the water. If they don’t want speeches after dinner, they can do them during the cocktail hour. If they don’t want 5 courses they can have a gourmet tasting menu. The possibilities are endless!

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The same principles apply with the wedding budget. Spend money on what matters most is what we say. Couples want to give their guests an experience that they will remember. If food is their thing, then they work more of the budget into food. If a particular cocktail  or gin bar is more in tune with their guests, then by all means, go botanical. People are not spending less on weddings but instead are more focused on where the quality should be. They are re-appropriating funds to areas that the bride and groom regard as more important and impactful.


Same goes for wedding attire. Even the high street retailers have picked up on this move towards spending money only on things that really matter. Whistles, Topshop, Monsoon, Phase Eight and Debenhams are some of many retailers selling very affordable wedding dresses and bridal party attire.


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So say good bye to the wedding rule book and hello to originality and authentic wedding experiences with your nearest and dearest.

Looking for something that will blow your guests away? Come see for yourself what all the fuss is about. To arrange a private viewing of our award winning property contact 021 4779040. You won’t be disappointed.


Why We’re Different

For a variety of reasons that range from cost to a desire for an intimate and romantic experience, more and more brides are choosing smaller, more intimate venues and having their family and friends stay longer.  Why does this work?

  • You get to celebrate one of the biggest days of your life surrounded by the people that matter most to you.
  • You can feel more relaxed on your wedding day. You’ll be surrounded by friends and family, you’ll feel more at home with your guests. Your wedding will feel more like a celebration with close-knit friends and family, than a production.
  • How many weddings have you felt that the bride and groom are struggling to fulfil their social obligation and don’t seem to really enjoy themselves?  By celebrating over two or even three days, you get to spend quality time with your guests.
  • By arriving the day before your wedding, you have time to personalise the House, have time to properly greet your guests, are able to have a rehearsal dinner the night before as an ice-breaker for the families – and be in the House and relaxed the following morning to start your preparations like hair, makeup, etc.
  • And you have avoided that percentage of people at most weddings who almost wonder why they were invited in the first place, end up resenting being there and can’t wait to leave.
  • When it is private and intimate it is more memorable and feels like a celebration.
  • A Wedding House Party is different!
  • The ‘Recovery Day’ party is often the highlight of any wedding.  We find the Bride & Groom in particular get to enjoy this day once the formalities of the Wedding Day are over.
  • Were there some relatives, colleagues or friends you weren’t able to invite for the Wedding Day?  Then invite them to the Recovery Party instead.
  • Pick a Location where there is plenty to do for your guests and they pay their own way for other activities  – Kinsale is a heritage town has all sorts of attractions including wonderful walks, shopping, water based activities, golf etc and most importantly is easily accessible.  You don’t have to worry about keeping your guests entertained during the daytime – just send them down to Kinsale – they’ll be delighted you did.
  • Beyond sharing the most important day of your life, a smaller wedding allows you the freedom to focus on those areas of the wedding that are most important to you and might otherwise have been out of your reach or a budget breaker.
  • By having a Destination Wedding in Ireland you avoid the extra hassle, cost and unpredictability of long distance travel. People can still look forward to a weekend away in Kinsale!
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